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What My Lawn Taught Me About Leadership

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What My Lawn Taught Me About Leadership

Notes from a season of mornings in the yard.

By Aaron Durham  ·  Founder, E3 Leadership

I’ve been spending a lot of my mornings lately out in the yard, trying to get a little garden going for my daughter and coaxing some stubborn grass to actually grow. It’s been a labor of love, but it’s also given me some quiet time to think.

I started noticing how much the rhythms of the garden feel like the rhythms of leading a team. Both are really just long-term systems where the small, quiet things you do every single day eventually add up to something beautiful you can finally see.

The Proof · My Backyard

Same yard. Same angle. Twenty-three days apart. No miracle products. No reseeding. Just consistent watering, observation, and small adjustments.

Backyard on May 21, dry grass, exposed dirt patches, hoses sprawled across the lawn Backyard on June 13, lush green coverage edge to edge
23 days. Same lawn. Compounding actions.
01

You have to keep a close eye on things

A good leader is present and in the field, just like a gardener walks the yard every morning to see how things are doing.

If you wait until the grass has already turned brown or the team’s morale has dipped, you’re stuck reacting to a problem that actually started weeks ago. You want to catch the little signs before they become big ones.

  • In leadership, we’re watching how people are feeling and how they’re working together.
  • In the garden, we’re checking for a bit of wilt, a few pests, or a new sprout.

Both organizations and landscapes thrive when they feel cared for and noticed.

02

More “watering” isn’t always the answer

It’s easy to assume that if a plant is struggling, it just needs more water. But overwatering can be just as bad as a drought. Leadership has that same trap.

When someone on the team is having a hard time, they don’t always need more of the usual stuff:

What they don’t need
  • Extra meetings on the calendar
  • More intense coaching
  • Added pressure to perform
What they might need
  • A bit more clarity on what we’re aiming for
  • Tools that actually work for them
  • Being moved to a spot where they can shine
  • Clearing away the obstacles in their path

The real question is: “What does this person actually need right now?”

03

The roots are what really matter

We all love seeing green grass and bright flowers, but those are just the end result of what’s happening underground. The invisible work is what makes the difference: deep root systems, nourished soil, the right balance of nutrients.

It’s the same with us.

What people celebrate
  • Growing revenue
  • A big promotion
  • High rankings
The actual roots
  • Trust
  • Culture
  • Capability
  • Accountability

Strong roots give you strong results. Weak roots eventually show themselves on the surface.

Both organizations and landscapes thrive when they feel cared for and noticed.

04

Every plant needs its own kind of care

My Mexican lime tree, the bougainvillea, and the pineapples all want something different from me. If I treated them all exactly the same, half of them wouldn’t make it.

Teams are just like that. Some people thrive with:

  • Plenty of space to run
  • Very direct, honest feedback
  • Someone to walk alongside them often
  • A public “thank you”

Leadership is about figuring out what each individual person needs to bloom.

05

Showing up every day beats a big burst of effort

You can’t forget to water for a month and then hope a giant flood will fix it. It just doesn’t work that way.

It’s the same with us:

  • A single rah-rah speech won’t fix a tired culture.
  • One long meeting won’t build lasting skills.
  • One big announcement won’t make people feel truly involved.

Real success comes from steady, daily care over time.

06

Sometimes you have to cut back to grow more

Pruning always feels a little wrong because you’re cutting away things that look healthy. But it’s what gives the plant the energy to grow even stronger.

As leaders, we have to prune too:

  • Meetings that don’t need to happen
  • Too many things on the “top priority” list
  • Processes that just slow us down
  • Habits that are becoming a bit toxic

To grow something new, we usually have to let something go first.

To grow something new, we usually have to let something go first.

07

Respect the seasons

A garden has its own timing. Planting. Growing. Harvesting. Then a quiet time for rest. Our teams go through seasons too.

There are times for building, times for growing fast, times for finding our feet, and times for change.

One of the hardest parts of leadership is trying to harvest something that’s only just been planted. You can’t rush the process. You have to give things the time they need to settle in.

08

“Fertilizer” just speeds up what’s already happening

Fertilizer doesn’t bring dead grass back to life. It just makes whatever is already there grow faster.

Leadership works the same way. Bonuses or new tools will either amplify a culture that’s already healthy or make the cracks in a broken one even more obvious. They aren’t a fix for the foundation.

09

Weeds show up all on their own

Nobody ever purposefully plants a weed. They just appear whenever the conditions are right for them.

Organizations get weeds too:

  • Gossip
  • Confusion
  • Misalignment
  • Standards quietly slipping

The fix isn’t just pulling the weed. It’s figuring out why it was able to grow there in the first place.

10

Results take time to show up

This might be the biggest lesson of all.

If you feed the lawn today, it won’t look different tomorrow morning. It takes a little patience. Leadership is the same.

The coaching chat you have today or the culture shift you start now might not show its face for months. The best gardeners and leaders both know that today’s harvest is the result of work we did a long time ago.

Today’s harvest was planted weeks, months, or years ago.

The Framework

Connecting it back to E³

It’s pretty cool how the E³ framework fits right into this gardening metaphor.

  • Energy
    The sun and the rain. The vibe and the environment we create so that growth is even possible in the first place.
  • Engagement
    Truly knowing your plants. The daily check-ins and the personal touch that build the trust where care can actually land.
  • Execution
    The discipline of sticking to the watering schedule and the long-term plan, even when you don’t see sprouts yet.

A garden that’s struggling usually isn’t because the gardener doesn’t care. It’s usually because they’re working hard without a real system in place.

A screened-in porch at twilight, full of lush hanging baskets and potted plants, with the Addy's Garden sign mounted at the center
Home · after the long, quiet work

Real growth isn’t about doing more. It’s about setting things up right, then having the heart to let the process unfold.

Aaron Durham
Founder · E3 Leadership

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